"If you’ve been up all night and cried till you have no more tears left in you - you will know that there comes in the end a sort of quietness. You feel as if nothing was ever going to happen again."
— C.S. Lewis (via lovelyydarkanddeep)
"I say this is a wild dream— but it is this dream I want to realize. Life and literature combined, love the dynamo, you with your chameleon’s soul giving me a thousand loves, being anchored always in no matter what storm, home wherever we are. In the morning continuing where we left off; resurrection after resurrection. You asserting yourself, getting the rich, varied life you desire; and the more you assert yourself the more you want me, need me. Your voice getting hoarser, deeper, your eyes blacker, your blood thicker, your body fuller. A voluptuous servility and a tyrannical necessity. More cruel now than before— consciously, willfully cruel. The insatiable delight of experience."
— Henry Miller, in a letter to Anaïs Nin dated August 14, 1932 (via earlyfrost)
"I am over the passivity of good men. Where the hell are you? You live with us, make love with us, father us, befriend us, brother us, get nurtured and mothered and eternally supported by us, so why aren’t you standing with us? Why aren’t you driven to the point of madness by the rape and humiliation of us?"
"There is an old saying that those who eat toasted cheese at night will dream of Lucifer. The author of Wuthering Heights has evidently eaten toasted cheese."
— from a review of Wuthering Heights in 1848 (via wine-loving-vagabond)
Over the decades, social, personality, clinical, and cognitive psychologists have catalogued a myriad of ways in which people engage in wishful thinking. However, people remain seemingly unaware that they do all this cognitive work; they remain innocent of the fact that their fears and desires have shaped how they view themselves and think about the world around them.
Indeed, for people to reach their motivational goals, it is imperative that they remain unaware of the distortions they place on their thinking. If they knew that they believed some pleasant thought merely because they wanted to believe it, they would also know, at least in part, how illegitimate that thought was. How, then, do people pull off the self-deception crucial to the execution of motivated reasoning?
Our data provide one answer to this riddle. People fail to recognise such self-serving biases if those processes remain outside of conscious awareness, monitoring, or control. If those processes take place preconsciously, before any content of perception and cognition reaches consciousness, people can construct pleasant thoughts yet remain unaware of the construction. The only content that would be available in consciousness would be the product and not the process of motivated reasoning."
— See What You Want to See: Motivational Influences on Visual Perception, (Balcetis and Dunning, 2006)